Obstacles are opportunities to learn and grow.  “Mistakes” are the same.  We can learn from them.  We all have strengths and weaknesses.  So often, children with “weaknesses” are labeled.  Diagnoses include Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Learning Disorder, Autistic Disorder, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder...the list goes on and on.

The important thing to remember regardless of the diagnosis is that self-esteem is the most important factor in long-term success.  If self-esteem is intact, difficulties are more likely to be overcome and be transformed into learning experiences.  Self-esteem is fostered by believing in your children.  It is improved by providing opportunities for others who believe in your children to impart confidence to them.  It is important to remember when choosing a sport, tutor, therapist, or activity that “students choose their teachers.”  You can place kids in front of hundreds of “professionals”, but they are the ones who will choose who they will learn from.

Learning begins with (1) an awareness that a weakness exists; (2) a reduction in defensiveness (based upon feelings of safety) and acceptance of the weakness (this is most likely to occur in a supportive environment); (3) desire/motivation to improve; (4) someone who believes in the child so that the child can learn to believe in themselves; and (5) practice, practice, practice!!!